Can you handle criticism?

Constructive criticism on what we are doing is an important measure to control each other's behavior when we belong to a group. If someone does something stupid, negative feedback is a means to prevent the person from making the same mistake again. The same applies if he does something good. Then positive criticism may have a reinforcing effect. Constructive criticism may therefore be both positive and negative feedback.

Criticism is often perceived as negative. Why this is so may be because the society we live in has a generally negative outlook on life. The media provides an indication of this. It is flooded with negative events when we look at Newsnight. But we must distinguish between negative criticism and constructive negative criticism. It is important to find out what kind of criticism we face before we take it under advisement.

To determine if the criticism is constructive or only negative, we must look at who the sender is. Is there a person with a healthy attitude towards life in general, or is that a person who is looking to manipulate others in order to feel better too? Has the person a generally positive outlook on life, or is it a person who is negative to the most? Is there a person who actually want our best, or is there one that does not like us for who we are?

If it turns out that there are people who are manipulative, generally negative or do not like you, you should reject the criticism. It is actually always just negative and not constructive. When you are given the criticism was flawed, and why on earth do you deal with it? You will then have better things to spend your energy on, than to listen to the negative feedback from idiots!

If it is negative criticism from people who otherwise are positive and have a healthy relationship with life, constructive criticism even if it is negative. They want to give you feedback solution and change something you're doing wrong for the better. This is for your own good.

When I get the (negative) criticism of anything I've done, I know that my psychological defenses are activated. I hit the spikes out and wondering who in the world is wanting to hurt or harm me with such statements. Tunnel vision is turned up, and I fail to see the constructive in it right away. It's a shame, because usually it is a truth of constructive criticism, even if it immediately just seems like a negative feedback.

However, I am conscious of the way I react. Therefore, I try to give criticism a little time to settle. I give myself an opportunity to digest the criticism before I give any response. I need some time before I stick the right note on your feedback. Is it constructive negative, or is it only negative? I try to watch an content of the criticism and the one who gives me criticism.

I can hardly see myself from the outside as others see me. In regards to myself, others a unique opportunity to observe me and what I do. I have previously discussed self-observation as a tool to become aware of our thoughts and our behavior, so as to be able to change us. Why not listen to others who actually observing us from the outside all the time?

To help you cope with criticism, and to use it constructively, you can use the following list:

• Allow yourself to get a response when you receive negative criticism. It is normal psychological defenses will get started when you are critically evaluated by others.
• Once the immediate reaction has subsided, use a few seconds to decide whether the sender is an idiot who only comes with flippant and unfair feedback. Or if it's a person that's worth listening to, and who have reasonable and constructive criticism. Do you get written feedback you have even more time to make a decision. Take time well.
• Try to have a general positive attitude to what is happening around you. Consider the criticism, but focus on the positive in what is said. Have the attitude that other people see yourself from the outside better than you do. Constructive criticism is not criticism of you as a person, but it is a response to your actions. In constructive criticism is also much truth. Remember that.
• When you get constructive criticism, saying "thank you" and be friendly. You should be happy that someone bothered to care. If the criticism is coming from a person you knew before, it can actually be a good place to get yourself a new friend. You do know that the person is honest.
• Take the constructive negative criticism into account and change behavior. Rise above your own stubbornness, and see the criticism as a unique opportunity for yourself to get better. You earn it, and you shall cooperate with the win.
• When you get positive criticism, take it as a signal that you've done something right. Give yourself a pat on the back and reward yourself with a soda!

Be a positive person!

When you are with other people, have you noticed that some smile more, laugh more and talk more positive terms than others? It is pleasant to be around these people, right? They send out good and positive vibes that we picks up, and often rubs it over on us. The reason is that we are influenced by others' vibrations, whether we want to or not.

Over the years I have worked to become a more positive person. I've managed. I've learned to focus on the positive aspects, although I do not put blinders on. At the same time I have become more aware of myself, and not least, more aware of the people around me. I have become more aware of how other people talk, their body language and what kind of vibe they send out.

Something I particularly note is that there are so many negative people. When they speak, it is often in a negative tone. They talk about how hard it is to get up in the morning, they talk about how much they hate the winter, they talk about how much money they earn, they are talking about (and the neck) others in a negative way, they say all the time that the job they have a crap job. I can still recite, almost indefinitely. Negative people focus on the negative, and they send out negative vibes. They are simply NEGATIVE!

Being near negative people is very tiring. In the long run it will drain one of energy, and finally have a simply wanted to give the negative person is a real slap in the face, or find rope and go out into the forest itself. Negative people affect the environment in a negative way, and it is impossible not to be affected to some degree.

Do not overdo
On the other hand, I have also seen people who are excessively positive. These are people who outwardly shows a painted up positivity. They are so positive that one can question their reality experience. Many people who are excessively positive can remind people who are in a kind of abnormal state of mind. Ruset, manic, or that they have taken on a false mask to hide the fact that they really are depressive. Or happy-Christians, who are high on Jesus.

Such people are also exhausting to be around for a long time. It is not hard in the same manner as for negative people, but it is laborious because it is stressful. And because an unconsciously notice that something is not as it should be.

It is best to be positive but normal, if such a thing exists.

Pc crash is no reason for negative thoughts!
A while ago my PC crashed. Hard drive went to hell, and all I had saved was gone. This was also draft some posts on this blog. But I was in a bad mood for it? No! Annoying, yes, but it was a minor and I took it as a new start. The posts that I had written could be rewritten again. And it could be that those who were lost, was bad. Also it was a good experience (backup is a good thing!). Moreover, the PC has become very much better after I got the new hard drive. It seems more "smooth" and I've gotten rid of some problems that were present from when I bought it.

I have begun to use " Google Docs "when I write. When I post on the web, and can also write on them from any computer. (Tips!!!)

After that I consciously began to focus on positivity, life has actually become very much easier. I've started reading a lot about positivity and positive thinking. And positive thinking has a link to both the law of attraction and quantum mechanics that I'm going to write about in the near future. Positive thinking is perhaps the most important thing you need to concentrate on to achieve success, happiness and success. I am also sure that the positive focus has a positive effect on health.

So, start to focus positive, too. It will make your life much easier!

What life is really all about?

Wondering what life is really all about? Well, here's the answer: Life is basically about being the best. It means that we humans strive to be at the top of the hierarchy. This applies not only to humans but also plants and animals. All life on earth yearns to be better than "neighbor". But even if life is to be the best, you can skip this rodeo and rather concentrate on what you want.

I know for me that this article could have been very long. I could have written about the theory of evolution, that we are in a constant struggle for existence. A fight only the best wins. I could have written that we humans, thanks to our highly developed brain, has come up with solutions that help us to live in peace with each other. But for most people will bother to read the whole, I will only concentrate on the essence. And that is that you must be aware that other people work to appear to be better than you. All the time!

Two of the most popular articles on your vibes. Now have courses in more confidence and manipulative people . It's really not that surprising. Confidence is perhaps the most important feature in the battle to be the best. And many who are vying to be the best, uses manipulative techniques.

The battle to be the best
Even as children we are aware of who is better than whom. Children become aware early on who is physically strong, who are academically strong, who have parents with lots of money, who are handsome, etc. These are properties that are important when it comes to that asserting themselves.

As adults, we are able to "fight" with the other, and those that are considered better than others, precisely, stronger physically, more intelligent, more money, more beautiful people and have more sexual partners than average .

When you are better than others, you have social value. Others look up to you or want to be friends with you to take part in the social value. They will be proud to say they know you. How often do we hear praise that someone knows someone who has a lot of money? Or know someone who has been to a party with a celebrity?

Speaking of celebrity. When celebrity is a signal that you are better than others. Media focuses heavily on the rich and famous. Although they often portray them in a negative light, we are aware that they are still better than us. Not only are they beautiful, rich and famous, but celebrities are also being looked up to and regarded as better because they get lots of attention. Attention is a need we humans have from when we are young, and we admire those who get it. We go to the people who unknowingly get much attention because attention is a source of relaxation. When we feel good, we are better equipped in the struggle for existence.

Humor is basically about being better than others. The movie "Dumb and Dumber" is funny because it makes us viewers to feel superior. Jokes act almost exclusively on any wins over another in some way or some shit out.

In recent times beauty operations become more and more common. Although it costs more than a month salary, providing people the new boobs, new teeth and new faces, only to emerge as better than others. It is a delusion when they operated beauty says they only did it to feel better. The truth is that they feel better because they see themselves as pretty or prettier than his neighbor.

Commercial advertising provides a picture of people who are better than others. They are often successful and attractive. Celebrities are used over and over again. The commercials that play on humor, is about people who shit out for us prospective buyers may feel better. In funny commercials are main always in some way inferior to us, eg. either ugly or stupid.

What you will learn from this
What you will learn from this, is that you have to be aware that someone is always looking to be better than you. It is part of being a part of humanity. It's hard to get away. Therefore it is important that you equip yourself in battle, and not resign.

You have to learn self defense in a psychological sense. Provide you with more confidence and teach you various defenses when someone is trying to manipulate you. For it often happens when someone actually is better than the other, even if they have a desire to be there, is that instead of getting better though, they try to make others worse. They oppress others, and it may be you who is attempted to suppress.

Jump off!
The problem with being in combat with others, is that we compare ourselves with others. When we compare ourselves to others, we will never be happy and balanced people. We will die more or less unhappy.

To not go into the same trap as most others do, you should make use of the most important assigned to you: Your brain. To assert yourself and also defend you best, you should strive to become a conscious human being. To get a quiet and comfortable life, you must be able to consciously make yourself so much that you're able to get out of and did not even participate in this match. Jump off. Run your own race!

You must be aware of your inner potential and work to manifest it. You can not get better than the potential that exists in yourself. If you are not aware of this you will always struggle to be better than others, even if your potential is not capable of it. You will constantly fight a battle that you will never win. Is not it better to spend energy on highlighting your best I instead?

If you misunderstood my message, do you think I mean you should be so much asshole you can to assert yourself. It is in that case error. My message is that you should work on yourself and get that good with yourself as possible, so that you can manage to rise above others' desire to be better than you. We can not improve than the potential that exists in us. All people have an intention in life that can accommodate what we really are.

Life is about being the best. It's about being the best fit. It's about being better than its neighbor. It's about being the person who is above all others. But it's up to you whether you want to continue that life.

Has your life become a bad habit?

Do you often go around thinking that you want to do something with your life? Hope you are soon to meet some people who show you the way to a better life? Do you have fantasies about that fate will send what you want right in your lap? In that case you have to wait long.

The truth is that it is up to you how your life will be. It is you who must make sure that you get it the way you want. Life is what YOU make it.

But it's so hard to motivate yourself and get going, you think. Yes that's right! It's hard to change your life.

Your life is a habit
The reason is that your life has become a habit. You have fallen into a pattern of behavior that it is almost impossible to get out of. All too often, life has become a bad habit.

A habit is a pattern of behavior or a mindset that is repeated automatically. The habit is learned, but have been implicated in both body and mind, and can almost feel like a behavior you do not have control over. A habit is actually rooted in your subconscious.

However, a habit is not as strong as an addiction or a mental illness. The difference is that you actually have control over the habit. It just requires willpower.

To maintain the habit, requires very little energy. This is what is dangerous. Physiologically, habit forming separate neural pathways in the brain, which helps to reinforce the behavior pattern. In addition, the habit of predictability and structure in their lives, something that feels as safe and well.

There are many areas in life that are controlled by the habits, good as well as bad. Morning Rituals when standing up is a habit. I am quite sure that you have certain things you do when you get up in the morning. Every single day! These habits are positive, then they save you a lot of time and effort in an otherwise stressful morning. Exercise is also a good habit, it adds something positive in your life.

The problem is the bad habits.

When the habit has negative consequences for you, it affects the quality of your life. Usually, when people talk about bad habits include nail biting, smoking, unhealthy diet, etc.

Have you been single a long time and waiting for a girlfriend to come knocking on your door? The problem is that your life as a single has become a bad habit. You have become comfortable with being single, and motivation to find a partner is in fact not present. Consciously or unconsciously.

And what do you do when you get home from school or work? You might make dinner, sit in front of television or computer, and where you are until you go to bed. Are you living your life from your couch? Comfortable, yes, but not very stimulating.

You must be out of your comfort zone!
It takes a lot to break the habit. It requires great effort to break the vicious circle, that is almost a reflexive behaviors.

Begin to be aware that you have a bad habit. Be aware of your behavior. To stop biting nails, there's a way you can put on the nails. Aid tastes terrible, and you are "disturbed" every time you try to bite nails. You become aware of the behavior or habit. As can you avoid and biting nails using willpower. The bad habit is over.

Is the life become a bad habit, is still the solution to be conscious. You must be aware of the patterns that create problems in your life. It can be difficult to "mock" them, since they are a part of you. In addition, maintaining the action patterns because you are comfortable with being the way you are. Some of you clutching habit it is to be you.

If you are single, you have incorporated you some habits that probably will never be appropriate in the company of a girlfriend. You shower as long as you want, you fart and burp loud, you eat what you want and when it suits you, and you have it as messy as you want. You are absolutely your own boss and have no need to take into consideration. These are habits that you feel is very comfortable, but you need to get you if you are with someone. This you know deep down inside. Anyway you might yearn for someone to share your life with.

The solution is referred to consciously make yourself habits, and you must be willing to let go of them. You must convince yourself that the benefits of having a girlfriend, surpassing the benefits of being your own boss in your life. You must be ready to pay attention to others. If you can not, the motivation to get stuck due to be low.

Not always just internal factors
A habit of sitting inside your own head. But you may feel there is anything remotely like holding you back, like. houses to maintain, kids, your job, your dog disease in others you have to take advantage of, lack of money, etc. Much can "prevent" you from changing behavior patterns.

You claim these conditions is an obstacle for you, so it's impossible for you to break the habit. This is completely wrong. Your external obstacles is still something that only exists in your head. But they work very well as an excuse for you to not have to take hold of your life, and continue as before. Remember that there is always room for changing life situation.

Awareness of habit is the first step to break with it. You must be aware of what you do, when to do it and why you do it. Then it is necessary to act.

It's about getting you out of your comfort zone. You must be ready to make an extra effort in your life. You must be prepared to have it a little uncomfortable period.

When Arnold Schwarzenegger built itself up to become the world's top bodybuilder, he did not do it because it was comfortable to train so much. When he trained, he is very uncomfortable. But he learned a technique, and it was that he focused on the comfort that came later. It was uncomfortable just a necessary evil that was inevitable.

The conclusion is that you must do something. You need to take action. You have the force necessary to change your inherent. Find it and get on with life.